When a husband and wife are divorced,
they live with the stigma all the days of their life. Society sees divorcees as
marital failures. They are regarded as men and women who cannot organize
families. Some people might listen to their many self-exonerating excuses but
not all. Other people had the same
problems but never considered divorce. Most people believe that divorcees lack
the ability and self discipline to run a home. This dent does with the divorcees
anywhere they set their feet.
Secondly,
the male divorcees are regarded as prospective wife snatcher just as the female
divorcees are regarded as potential husband snatchers. The vogue is to treat
divorcees with absolute caution. Such men and women have lost their innocence.
Married couples are weary of them. They receive into their homes with
apprehension before they negatively affect the marital bliss in their homes.
Thirdly,
divorcees lose intimacy with their children who according to the terms of
divorce are in the custody of either one of the former partners. The
breakdown of family harmony and unity
is the worst tragedy of divorce. The psychological trauma associated is
irreversible. Children of divorcees are usually destabilized and disorientated.
These negative factors give rise to immoral and criminal tendencies.
Sociologists had claimed that this situation generates personality disorders
and aggressive instincts.
Fourthly,
the future of divorcees is uncertain. Even when they remarry, the success of
the marriage is unpredictable. Unusually history repeat itself and the marriage
fail, because divorcees have premonition of failure and this mentality syndrome
usually takes its toll. They require counseling to erase the phobia of failure.
The
best option is to avoid thinking of divorce. It is a catastrophe of monumental
dimension. Happy marriage is not found in avoiding marital problems but rather
in facing them and attempting to solve them.
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