God created man and
woman with distinct qualities and traits and when married are supposed to take
a selfless and loving position in each other’s lives. Such a relationship means
you come together to make each other better. It is not all about you. Women
have flaws, weaknesses, and faults, including the men so when they are joined
in marriage, they will experience challenges along the way. The only panacea is
for both to develop goodness, faithfulness and self-control. A woman’s words,
attitudes and actions have a powerful impact on the peace in the home .No
marriage is devoid of challenges, but having a great relationship and blissful
marriage is possible if you choose your partner with caution. Women are the
tone-setters for our homes. There are women that can create problems through
the negative tones they set. Here are some of them:
UNSUPPORTIVE WOMEN
Any woman who does not support your goals will not make a good
wife. If you make the mistake to marry this kind of woman, you will regret it.
You need a wife who will support you with your dreams and visions as much as
you are expected to support her with hers. You need a wife who will make you
better and encourage you to go beyond average. Both of you should be able to
pull the greatness from within each other. Find a woman who willingly shares
responsibilities. You will work as a team. Find a woman who values your
opinions and a willingness to learn. A good woman will help her man with
encouragement and ideas and help him save and invest his money wisely.
VERY CRITICAL WOMEN
Women who choose to
live positively through the storms of life should be embraced. Those of them who
always have negative things to say about people and things around them should
be avoided. When your partner complains about a situation, she is just letting
you know what she finds annoying, displeasing or frustrating. But when she
criticizes you, she is attacking your character or personality. Good women will
avoid condescending phrases or character attacks. A woman that loves her partner will respect
him and not insult him unnecessarily. Her words will be gracious and a balm to
his heart. Critical women make mountains out of mole hills. A critical spirit
has the ability to prevent good relationship and often produce retaliatory
critical response.
COMPLAINING WOMEN
They are some women who complain about everything you do or
say. Run away from such women. They will give you high blood pressure. You will
never know peace. If you buy them gift
maybe a bag they would preferred a pair of shoes. They are unappreciative of any
gift they receive. They always want something else. Anything you do is not
acceptable to them.
TALKATIVE WOMEN
Most women like talking but the ones that talk unendingly
should be avoided. A talkative woman will not know when she will leak family
secrets. A woman who will make a good wife will know when to talk and when to
keep quiet. Decent women will listen more and talk less. Whenever, they should
speak clearly, thoughtfully, and respectfully.
PRETENTIOUS WOMEN
If your woman is a pretender, then you are in serious
trouble. It means you can never trust her and trust is very essential in all
relationships. A pretentious woman is good at lying and pretending to be a good
person. She makes life miserable and often cause family quarrels and
regrettable misunderstandings.
DEFENSIVE WOMEN
Defensiveness occurs when the guilty person refuses to
apologize or back down from a conflict. Instead a defensive woman will give
excuses for her behaviour and even blame her partner as the guilty person.
Defensiveness results in a serious standoff between couples. There is wisdom in
accepting when we are wrong. Some things are worth fighting for; some things
are not. Sometimes some women want to win at all cost that they will not let an
issue go.
SELFISH WOMEN
You can never be happy with a woman that thinks only of
herself. Taking care of another person’s need requires maturity and
self-control. Marriage, like all relationships, involves give and take. It is
not about selfish interests and desires. When a woman loves, she is able to get
her selfish needs and desires out of her mind. But a selfish woman is always
thoughtless and resentful.
DISHONEST WOMEN
Honesty is one of the most important traits of a pleasing
personality. If you marry a dishonest woman, you will never have a happy
marriage. Love and marry a woman who is honest. Honest with you all the time.
Deceit and dishonesty are obstacles to a happy married life. The form of deceit
which is cunningly laid out and unworthily carried on under the disguise of
love is, of all the most detestable. A woman cannot be justified in deceiving
or misleading her partner. Still less, then, is she justified in inspiring
confidence by smooth words and a gracious manner, only that she may further her
selfish end by breaking the trust placed in her.
UNFORGIVING WOMEN
It is difficult to move forward in any relationship when you
are thinking of the wrong done you in the past. If your woman is fond of
dwelling on past bitterness, you have to step back and reconsider your
relationship’ it could mean that she is naturally unforgiving. Some of the
reason why some women are unforgiving are ; adultery, domestic abuse, assault,
horrible lies, great injustice, damaging gossips etc. The offence may have
caused a deep pain. If you have caused such a pain to a woman that loved,
trusted you and gave you access to her heart, you should make efforts to
apologize and pet her because you betrayed her and she feels devastated.
Frustrations, disappointments, hurts and sadness can make a loving woman
bitter. The offence to you may look minor but bitterness correlates to the
extent the woman loves you. Sometimes it is difficult to admit we are wrong. If
all your efforts to make amend fails, you should not continue with the
relationship because bitter women have natural tendency toward retaliation.
RESENTFUL WOMEN
Avoiding resentful women will save you from tragedies that
will result if you continue down the destructive path of anger and resentment.
Some men know that the woman they want to marry have anger issue but still go
ahead racing ahead towards a head-on collision with her blemished character. During
courtship some women show many times that when angry they could be very
dangerous. But they don’t take them serious believing her violent temper will
never be a threat to their happy marriage. Couples who have had happy marriage
are those who have learned to control their temper.
CONTEMPTUOUS WOMEN
Contemptuous women show disgust for their spouses such as
name-calling, mocking, condescending hum or belittling, demeaning and body
language (rolling of the eyes, huffing, glaring and sneering). Their
contemptuous behavior will grow worse over the time if nothing concrete is
done leading to accumulation of unresolved conflicts which stack negative
thoughts into a mountain of disgust. Contemptuous women’s belligerence and
aggressive actions could provoke you into harming them. This will invariably
worsen the conflict and pushes you further from reconciliation, thereby living
parallel lives. This will lead to separate financial lives and even separate
bedrooms. This could include turning to ignore you, turning her back and
walking away from you or simply surfing the internet or tuning up the
television when you attempt to talk with her. A decent woman will not look down
on her partner because of his present state of life and financial status but
will encourage you to become better.
CONCLUSION
No human is perfect but if she has no respect for you it will be almost impossible to have happy marriage. If you see a woman who believes in your dream, who respects you, who is committed and who is not all about herself alone then you should not let her go. Marriage is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person but you must be able to withstand her weaknesses and traits .it will be almost impossible to have a happy marriage with a woman with four and above flaws mentioned above. You need a woman you can weep on her shoulders without feeling ashamed and someone that you want to be there with you through thick and thin. Do not settle for
