An ideal mother must be able to cope
with crises. Immature mothers tend to collapse when a crisis occurs. If you
experience crisis with regularity, you likely are not mature. You may be
reacting to life instead of being in control. There are, of course, crises that
descends on you, and you may have little or no control over them. Motherhood
guarantees crisis situations. Learning from them, remedying their causes, and
refusing to let them make you grouchy or even nervous are great achievements.
Disciplinarian
A mother is a disciplinarian. A
disciplinarian teaches what is right from wrong and some guidelines for
discerning what makes any given act or thought right. To be effective
discipline must include establishing healthy controls not denial. A mother
should hold her child to high standards, establish clear rules of behavior, and
enforce these strictly and consistently. When the child misbehaves, she makes
every effort to explain why the behavior was inappropriate. When reasoning fails,
however, she does not hesitate to assert her authority. A mother should not
enforce one rule at a time but let it slide the next time because she is tired
or she wants to avoid confrontation. When she is not consistent, her child will
see any discipline as arbitrary.
Cab driver
Taking children where they need to go
makes a mother feel, many times, as if she is running a cab service. Schedule
with your children enough activities to enrich their lives but not so many that
both of you are over-burdened. Most times, it’s a mother that takes the
children, to school, and brings them back. She also takes them out on picnics
until they are of age to acquire a driving license.
Comforter and Grief Expert
Every mother need to be like that
comforter during children’s pain – always available, soft, absorbent of tears,
and usually quiet. While a child is in severe pain, they need no lectures but a
shoulder to cry on and listening ears for the cause of their pains. They need
to be able to talk and be heard, to cry and find a source of soft absorbent
material, to even yell or hit something and find resilient shock absorber. It
takes a great strength to be that comforter when one has her own perturbing
issues to handle. After the severe period of grief is over, you may well after
a few words of caring, you’ll tell her of times when you, too, experienced pain
and some ideas about ways to get out of the strong emotions of grief. Mothers
know their children and their individual needs and can recognize and circumvent
impending anger or issues. Mothers should gently guide their children and
encourage their burgeoning intellectual and emotional selves to ensure the
children become self assured, and responsible individuals.
Fashion Expert and Seamstress
It
is the duty of a mother to dress her children to look presentable. The way your
children are dressed can tell a lot about the care you are giving them. Not
only do children’s fashions need to fit somewhat with those of their friends,
they also need to fit their physical build. The height, weight, and coloring of
a young child need to be taken into consideration when choosing styles and
colors that are attractive and comfortable on them. Teaching children what
colors go well with their eyes and hair, what styles suit them, and what colors
can be mixed and matched is a great challenge, and it can be fun if a mother
decides to do it with undiluted interest. It is easier, of course, if you start
when they are young and trust your judgment. A good mother helps to teach her
children especially the girls how to sew. This way they learn how to mend their
dresses when they are torn or how to make new dresses of their choice. A sewing
machine is always handy in many homes for this purpose.
Social Coordinator
A mother should have social skills.
She is a perfect organizer of children birthdays. She will buy the dress for
the celebrant and cook the delicious recipe that will be served to make the
occasion a memorable one. She should be able to plan family vacations, host
dinner parties for friends and her husband’s business colleagues. Arrange play
dates, and pretty much she can do to make sure the children have those things
that make them happy.
When
a mother is social, her children will be proud to invite their friends home
because they know that their mother will be equal to the task. A social mother
is nicer, easier to be with and she is fun. This is very appealing to the
children and their friends, and the mother will be grateful for that strong
connection she has with her children.
Value Clarifier
The
benefits of having a mother in the home are to have someone care for children
on a physical, mental and emotional level. A mother gives the children a sense
for value. She helps them place value on things. Another benefit of a mother is
having the female mother figure showcased in the life of the children. She
takes time to show them the true value of things. Things to cultivate and the
ones they should not. Femininity, a female role made and a female adult
presence teaches a child how to recognize the difference between male and
female and how they adapt to society and parental differences.
Dietitian
It is the duty a mother to cook
nutritious meals for her children. She ensures she feed them with the
healthiest food that will guarantee they grow up properly. Most children learn
how to cook from their mothers.
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