Have
your background been similar to that of the person you want to marry? This
question is very important because similar living environment, religious
affiliation, financial status and social standing tend to make adjustment
easier. Dissimilar backgrounds tend to prolong the period of marital
adjustment.
Have you maintained friendly
relationship with your parents? You have a greater chance of marital happiness
if the answer is in the affirmative. If your relationship with your parents is
platonic agreement in your choice of partner will not constitute much of a
problem.
Was your parents’ marriage a
success? If the answer is no, you may not understand what it takes to make a
happy home. The person who was reared in a broken home, however, has had an
opportunity to observe the tragedy of disharmony, and may have develop such a
strong determination to establish a happy home to offset the disadvantages of
his unfortunate childhood.
When spending time with the person
you want to marry, does your conservation run along lines of mutual interest
and common goals? If the answer is no, then there will need for a longer period
of personality adjustment.
Have you avoided making mental reservations
with respect to your proposed marriage? The person who tries to keep his
partner ignorant of facts pertaining to him is risking marital disharmony. It is better to inform each other
completely, even at the risk of a broken engagement, than to run the risk of
misunderstandings after the marriage.
Will you be willing to defer to your
partner rather than develop a misunderstanding? There are times when marital
harmony demands a willingness to go more than halfway in order to give your
partner the benefit of doubt.
Are you willing that provision be
made for discussion of problems of common interest?
Have you met the parents of your
spouse-to be and are you willing to assume the responsibilities coming your
way? If you intend to make reservations in this matter, such reservations
should be frankly discussed before the marriage.
If the above questions can be
honestly answered in the affirmative, then you can go ahead with the marriage
without delay, from your own standpoint,
you
have done your share to ensure marital happiness.
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