To
be able to have a successful marriage couple must be grown up emotionally.
Marriage is for the mentally matured. The blending of two different
personalities requires emotional stability. The couple needs to be calm when
problems develop. It important that they reduce stress and tension for the mind
can only operate efficiently when the emotions are under control.
Your marriage will be
successful if each of you brings out the best in the other. Two people loving
each other and with high esteem for the other's personality are bound to get
along beautifully. Talk out all problems that develop together and arrive at
reasonable solutions in unity.
Ti is crucial that you
treat your spouse with respect and politeness. Never let anger make you
discourteous and engage in derogatory comments. Show courtesy to your partner.
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It is important to
remember that marriage is a symbiotic relationship and not an parasitic one.
Even though God made man the head of the family, marriage is complementary. The
men should not dominate their wives. Manipulation is to control or play upon
your partner's intelligence in an unfair way especially for your own advantage.
How often do you find yourself scheming to get what you want?
There will be need to
adjust some of your ways to accommodate the other person. This adjustment must
be achieved on all levels: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.
Marriage is a team
work. Each partner must contribute his quota to the survival of the
relationship. Do things together often and show interest in what your spouse is
ding. Make all decisions that affect your lives together. Always be interested
in the other person's activities and ideas. Direct your conversation to the
other's interests rather talking about yourself. If you are absorbed in another's
interests, he will become attentive to yours and you will have a pleasant time
together. If each makes the other happy both of you will be happy and the
marriage will be a successful one.
Women who nag should
know that they are sending their husband out, maybe to the bottle or to other
loving women. If you understand this and send him off with enthusiasm and love
he will not only hurry home to be with you but will probably not go out as
often. A man, who works hard, occasionally, needs to have some relaxation and
fun with his friends.
Jealousy drives some
partners to attempt to manipulate and control. A jealous partner does not trust
his partner. Such an attitude can force a partner to be deceitful. Rather than
risk the partner's wrath, he simply will not discuss where he is been or what
he has done.
Cultivate the quality
of being stimulating. If being with you makes your partner feel better and more
alive, your partner will sought after you and your personal relation will be
better for it.
Avoid being on the edge
and over sensitive, so that you easily hurt. People instinctively shy away from
the emotionally delicate person for fear of arousing an unpleasant reaction.
Avoid the temptation to react with hurt feelings, and you will get on better
with your partner. Resurrecting all your doubts about whether you would be able
to put aside your pasts and differences enough to have any meaningful future,
ruin many marriages. In fact, I know of a couple who blame each other for the
fact that their marriage had brought them disillusionment. They had made some
half-hearted attempts to enjoy each other's company, but the casual intimacies
did not bring the anticipated satisfactions, so they gradually become
reconciled to the idea of leading independent lives under the same roof. This
is like sitting on a keg of gun powder.
Love your partner and
do things for him. Perform unselfish and outgoing acts of friendship. Such
sincere self-giving inevitably leads to pleasant personal relations and a great
marriage.
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