Thursday, 30 June 2016


Falling deeply in #love with another person love is one of the greatest feelings in the world, and it can sneak up on you any time. But few months or years into the relationship the joy and laughter may become dulled somehow.  People erroneously think that once they are in love, it is forever, but sometimes it isn't. After sometime you find yourself falling out of love. What are some of the ways to tell you aren't in love anymore? If you’re noticing any number of these signs, you are falling out of love. So, if you are unsure if the love is still there, here are some signs to watch out for.
 No more talk about the future
At first, all you can talk about is your future together. You are prepared to share life’s highway together. You talk about your wedding, where you’ll live, having kids, what you’ll name your kids, bringing up happy kids and how you’ll spend retirement together. How often have you talk to your boyfriend now about where it is you both think you’re going and what you’re doing? Do you find yourself avoiding the topic? It’s a clear indicator your heart isn’t in it anymore.
Constant disagreement
Almost every married couple quarrels a bit from time to time. It's a part of life and of relationships, but if all you two do is argue, it really isn't worth a relationship is it? Most arguments are over insignificant things. Do you feel like you want to make up at all? Love gives up the right to be right where it exists.  Do you feel like you are constantly feeling sorry for your relationship? These are obvious sign that you need to watch out for. It’s the possibility that you have fallen out of love.
You feel unhappy around other couples
Seeing other couples being so happy is like a slap in the face. You feel unhappy when you see a couple walking down the beach holding hands. The two of you were once like that, right? You find yourself avoiding other couples because it’s just too painful. It hurts because you know it’s already over with your boyfriend.
Feel something is missing
Falling out of love is difficult to explain. When you have fallen out of love, your initial feeling of excitement is replaced with a feeling of emptiness. Having this sensation of emptiness is a big sign to all is not well. So, if you’re feeling that something is missing, that is a sign that you just don't love him anymore.
You find it difficult to “I love you”
You may force the words but do you feel it?  Even, if you do say it often without really meaning it, pay attention to how you feel when you say it. You may just be paying lip service to the words. After sometime you will find very difficult to say. He is no longer the center of the world. It’s one of the more noticeable signs that you’re falling out of love.
You feel uncomfortable whenever he says “I love you”
One of the greatest needs that a woman needs is to feel secure is to know her man loves her. Yes, “I love you” was appreciated when everything was rosy with your relationship. But now things aren’t so hot, you probably feel uncomfortable when he tells you he loves you. You might find yourself smiling and changing the subject when he says he loves you. The worse you feel when he says it, the more obvious it is the love you once felt is fading away.
You develop wandering eyes
The issue of fidelity, or loyalty, is central to all relationships.  If your eyes have started to wander, then soon you may be wandering out of this relationship soon. If your eyes are wandering every time you go out with the ladies you might need to take a look at your relationship. It’s one thing to notice another attractive man, but if you’re constantly leading with your eyes, you’re leading yourself in another direction.
Communication becomes irregular
Did you use to talk every day about your jobs, friends, hobbies, etc? If the relationship was platonic, partners in love are supposed to have honest talk regularly. Talking helps us understand, listen, share, and communicate. But now your communication with your #boyfriend has become half-hearted. Does it seem like TV is far more interesting than conversation? Partners in intimate relation need appropriate time on a regular basis to sit down and talk with each other without distraction. If you don’t live together, do you find yourself texting or calling less? If you aren’t talking there is something wrong. You start to naturally avoid conversation as the love fades.
You don’t feel excited about your partner anymore
 You should be excited to want to be with your partner, you should be excited to see him and should miss him when you are away from him. When you are no longer in love, it appears the butterflies have flown away. Are you experiencing any feelings when they are gone? If your partner is sending you sweet loving text messages and you don’t even feel one little flutter, there might be something in the air. While all couples are different, there should be something that you miss and get excited about with your partner – are you feeling that anymore?
The relationship becomes another routine
When you love life becomes a routine, no adventure and no surprises, then something is wrong. There’s nothing to look forward to. Boredom has set in. You might think you’re just too comfortable, but the problem could be you don’t really love him anymore. Love isn’t routine and it shouldn’t feel that way.
Affection disappears
Do you even have any #affection at all in your relationship? This is another thing that you need to consider. When you are madly in love, no matter what your partner looks like, you still can’t keep your hands off them. You find excuses to not touch each other anymore. Even small things like snuggling on the couch or a quick kiss goodbye seems like you’re being smothered. This is something that you're really going to have to think about, as it's important to touch in your relationship. When you start cringing at the thought of being intimate with your loved one, all signs point to the love being gone. If the love is dying, intimacy just feels wrong to you. When the romantic feelings that are part of a relationship disappear, many disillusioned partners quit the relationship. You can’t expect the passion and the excitement in your relationship to last if you’ve abandoned romance.
No more sex
If you are in love and being loved, it is part of the natural process to make love. Sex makes you two feel closer than ever. However, if you don't even feel the urge anymore to have sex with your boyfriend and you don't get excited about the prospect of sex, that's a great sign to tell you that you aren't in love anymore.
Everything about him annoys you
Do you find yourself resenting everything that he does? You felt that the sun, the moon and the stars revolve around him in the beginning. But you’ve started noticing his flaws now. Remember those cute little things your boyfriend used to do? Well, now those “cute” habits feel like repellents. Every little thing gets on your nerves. You can’t stand his hair style or that weird sound he makes when laughs too hard. And why can’t he manage to stop talking? Yes, you get annoyed by everything he does and you’re not afraid to let him know. One of the ways to tell you aren't in love anymore is that you are constantly annoyed with him.
The urge to spend time with others increases
When you met and fell in love, you had the passion for being with each other. You used to feel incomplete with him, but now you differently. You are now dedicating yourself to someone’s happiness. You prefer to spend #time with your best friends, with a group of co-workers or even your family than your boyfriend. He has become a burden.
You feel like being with other men
It is one thing to fantasize, but another to always see yourself with another man indicates that you are falling out of love. If you are still in love, you’ll want your boyfriend to be fulfilled, successful, happy and complete. To do this requires focus, strength, passion, drive, enthusiasm and effort; not think of another man when you’re in a relationship. So if you find yourself thinking of another man, take this as a sign that you’re no longer in love with your current guy. Respect him and let him go. Your mind and heart have already moved on.
It’s exhausting to be together
You need someone who is pleased to see you. It makes you feel worthwhile, so your boyfriend. When you separate in the morning to go to school or work, you feel incredibly pleased to see each other in the evening, but if it’s becoming exhausting just to stay together, it is a sign that something is wrong. I know that life goes through peaks and troughs but love helps give you the energy to work through the bad times. If everything feels forced and you don’t have that driving force to help boost you, you are going to feel exhausted every time the two of you are together. Give yourself a break and admit you’ve fallen out of love.
You’re not interested in him anymore
When your friends, hobbies, family, pets take center stage of your life than your boyfriend, the spark has fizzled out. You daydream about other things when he is around. You are losing interest in the relationship. Some people fall in love for the wrong reasons –reasons that are insufficient for sustaining a healthy and lifelong relationship. Some people get into a relationship to spite or get back at their parents or friends. Anger and resentment may drive you to do something irrational, like getting into a relationship without thinking it through.
Lack trust
A very crucial aspect of love is the capacity to trust and to be trusted. As you fall out of love, you might stop trusting him as well. After all, you feel like you’re lying to him by staying. If you no longer trust him, the love is dying. It’s time to find someone you can trust.
You see him more as a friend than a lover
It’s natural for your lover to become your best friend as well. But, your boyfriend should be treated better than your best friend because he is both lover and a friend. However, if the lover status becomes questionable, you two may be holding onto friendship, instead of a romantic relationship. You’d rather hang out and talk than slip between the sheets and cuddle afterwards. The love’s gone, but you’re hoping to save the friendship.
You don’t care about fixing problems
When you are falling out of love, you’ll notice that problems multiply. He might want to try to fix things, but you’ll be nonchalant. You couldn’t care less what happens. In fact, you’d be happier if things just fell apart. You are no longer in love with him.
Your future plan doesn’t include him
You once had plan for the future but now, he doesn’t even have a place in your ideal future. You see yourself different dreams that does not include him. If you were in love, you’d find a place for him. Since there’s no love, you’ve already removed him from your future.
You become self-seeking
 Love is not self-seeking. But when you are falling out of love, you only care about what things that are in your favor and not exactly what impacts your boyfriend.
You stay for other reasons
When you stay with him because you have kids together or you can’t afford a place of your own, then you’re definitely falling out love.
You always hurt his feelings
You find yourself always hurting him sometimes unintentionally. Perhaps he made special plans for a date or picnic and you refuse to cancel to be with your friends. You care less and less about his needs and as a result, you hurt him. That is a sign you don’t love him anymore.
Lack of respect    
Finally, how are the #respect levels in your relationship? We need to say “I love you” not only verbally but through our respect. Do you respect your #partner and he respects you right back? This is important for you to consider, as when you are in love, you have respect for each other. Being in love is something fantastic, but there are times you can fall out of it! Falling out of love isn’t fun, but it’s easy to notice because respect disappears.

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