Monday, 10 November 2014


 To be able to have a successful marriage couple must be grown up emotionally. Marriage is for the mentally matured. The blending of two different personalities requires emotional stability. The couple needs to be calm when problems develop. It important that they reduce stress and tension for the mind can only operate efficiently when the emotions are under control.
Your marriage will be successful if each of you brings out the best in the other. Two people loving each other and with high esteem for the other's personality are bound to get along beautifully. Talk out all problems that develop together and arrive at reasonable solutions in unity.
Ti is crucial that you treat your spouse with respect and politeness. Never let anger make you discourteous and engage in derogatory comments. Show courtesy to your partner. I
It is important to remember that marriage is a symbiotic relationship and not an parasitic one. Even though God made man the head of the family, marriage is complementary. The men should not dominate their wives. Manipulation is to control or play upon your partner's intelligence in an unfair way especially for your own advantage. How often do you find yourself scheming to get what you want?
There will be need to adjust some of your ways to accommodate the other person. This adjustment must be achieved on all levels: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.
Marriage is a team work. Each partner must contribute his quota to the survival of the relationship. Do things together often and show interest in what your spouse is ding. Make all decisions that affect your lives together. Always be interested in the other person's activities and ideas. Direct your conversation to the other's interests rather talking about yourself. If you are absorbed in another's interests, he will become attentive to yours and you will have a pleasant time together. If each makes the other happy both of you will be happy and the marriage will be a successful one.
Women who nag should know that they are sending their husband out, maybe to the bottle or to other loving women. If you understand this and send him off with enthusiasm and love he will not only hurry home to be with you but will probably not go out as often. A man, who works hard, occasionally, needs to have some relaxation and fun with his friends.
Jealousy drives some partners to attempt to manipulate and control. A jealous partner does not trust his partner. Such an attitude can force a partner to be deceitful. Rather than risk the partner's wrath, he simply will not discuss where he is been or what he has done.
Cultivate the quality of being stimulating. If being with you makes your partner feel better and more alive, your partner will sought after you and your personal relation will be better for it.
Avoid being on the edge and over sensitive, so that you easily hurt. People instinctively shy away from the emotionally delicate person for fear of arousing an unpleasant reaction. Avoid the temptation to react with hurt feelings, and you will get on better with your partner. Resurrecting all your doubts about whether you would be able to put aside your pasts and differences enough to have any meaningful future, ruin many marriages. In fact, I know of a couple who blame each other for the fact that their marriage had brought them disillusionment. They had made some half-hearted attempts to enjoy each other's company, but the casual intimacies did not bring the anticipated satisfactions, so they gradually become reconciled to the idea of leading independent lives under the same roof. This is like sitting on a keg of gun powder.
Love your partner and do things for him. Perform unselfish and outgoing acts of friendship. Such sincere self-giving inevitably leads to pleasant personal relations and a great marriage.

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