9 Guys Confess How They Caught Their Partners Cheating

"I went downstairs to get a drink and she was on a couch hardcore making out with some dude."

1. “I had a feeling something was going on behind my back, just because [my ex] had a lot of ‘late nights working’ and a lot of ‘girls nights’ all of the sudden. I pushed her on the issue a few times, but she denied it. I absolutely should’ve just trusted my gut. But the third time when I pushed her on it and didn’t back down, she just admitted it. I walked out and never talked to her again. I don’t think she even deserved any follow-up or closure or a chance to explain. To me, it wasn’t just that she was cheating with some other guy, it was that she lied to me multiple times. Why even bother with that?” — Adam, 28
2. “It started because I got a text that I was pretty certain was for someone else. She had told me she was sick so she wasn’t going to come over. Then about a half hour later I get a message that she was coming over in a half hour and she was excited to see me. It seemed really out of place. She followed up quickly by explaining away that she felt better for a second and was going to come visit after all, but then threw up again. It wasn’t enough for me to drive over to her place and check on her; I didn’t want to look crazy. I did snoop through her phone later and found enough incriminating messages that I broke it off.” — Charles, 29
3. “I found out through a mutual friend who saw her out with some guy at a local dive bar. She denied it, but the friend really had no reason to lie. After we broke up she started dating the guy she was out at that bar with, so I’m pretty sure I made the right choice.” — Rob, 27
4. “We had been dating for a few months and went to a house party together. I went downstairs to get a drink and she was on a couch hardcore making out with some dude. I didn’t even say anything, just left and never spoke to her again. There were a lot of other unrelated red flags in the relationship that I ignored. That just sealed the deal for me.” — Devin, 26
5. “She started hanging out with a group of friends I didn’t know well and I honestly didn’t like them. We had been dating since we were like, freshman in high school, and I’m pretty sure a part of me knew this was the beginning of the end. I had started to check out myself, too. I kinda figured she was cheating and she eventually confessed it when we broke up.” — Russell, 30
6. “My ex and I moved in together right after college to a city pretty close to where we had gone to school. I had gotten an entry level job in my field and she hadn’t yet, and was making ends meet with a retail gig during her job search. It started to drive a wedge between us. I was trying to be helpful and supportive, but she always thought I was being judgmental. Anyway, I had a half day that I guess she didn’t know about and I came home to her having sex with her coworker. There was this weird moment before I opened the door where I could hear what was going on and I had to decide if I even wanted to see it going down. It only lasted a split-second, but there was still this little self-check moment: ‘You sure about this?’ I whipped open the door and screamed. She’s doing fine now and even tried to rekindle things with me recently, but I have a hard rule on no cheating. Plus, if that’s going to be her reaction whenever things aren’t going great, why would I want to spend my life with her?” — Will, 27
7. “This is one that I still have trouble wrapping my head around. I was dating this girl who I had known for a while in my circle of friends, and she had recently broken up with a guy who I also knew from this same group. Things seemed good. I even ran into this guy at a party and we talked a bit and he basically gave us his blessing. And then about three months into our relationship I find out from his best friend (who was also my friend) that they’d basically still been hooking up since they broke up. I asked her about it and ended things. I just don’t get what the hell either of them were thinking. I still don’t. If you want to break up and hook up, fine. But why see other people and lie to them about it? ” — Sam, 28
8. “My ex kept texting a ‘coworker’ named Jen. She’d get messages sometimes at weird times of the night or while we were out on the weekends, but her whole thing was just that her and Jen were really close at work and Jen was going through some rough times. She even took a phone call from ‘Jen’ once when we were out on a date because she had apparently gotten hospitalized. Then one night, we’re in bed together and she’s asleep, and her phone goes off. I look at it, and ‘Jen’ texted her something to the effect of ‘I want to fuck you so bad.’ It turns out she had this dude saved in her phone as Jen and made up the whole backstory so she’d have an excuse if she ever got messages while we were out. I woke her up, and she tried to deny it for some reason, even though she’d been caught red-handed and I’d seen enough of the conversation history to basically piece this all together on my own. That ended that.” — Brandon, 28
9. “So early on when we started dating, she had cheated on me. It became this huge argument, and she felt like we weren’t officially a couple at the time so she didn’t realize it, but now she knew she loved me and cared for me and all this stuff. I had found out about it a few weeks after it had happened and she swore up and down it was just a stupid mistake. She didn’t tell me since she felt like she didn’t technically do anything wrong at the time. A month later, I went to meet her at a restaurant. My table had a pretty good view of the street, and I saw her get dropped off by this guy. To clarify, I knew who he was because he was a friend of a friend of a friend type-deal, not a total stranger. At that point I knew she was manipulating me. What I did next probably wasn’t the most mature response, but I don’t really care. It pissed me off that she would literally get dropped off by this dude she was clearly hooking up with right before she came to see me. I acted like everything was fine, which was tough. I ordered a bunch of expensive stuff, had dinner, and then ‘went to the bathroom’ but really I just left. She texted me incredibly angrily until I said ‘I know everything.’ She didn’t respond after that.” — Joe, 29

Article By Frank Kobola culled from FlipDigest.

23 Ways Of How To Be A Kind Wife

A lot of people are confused about marriage these days. In the eyes of many, the institution of marriage has become irrelevant and archaic relic. The longer you are married, the more effort is required to stay remain married, so remember often, why you married him instead of why you shouldn't have. Remind yourself of the good feelings you had before it got hard and complicated. We live in a time when marriage has largely lost the sense of permanence.  Marriage doesn’t last any longer. Put on a cloak of kindness because marriage is the deepest and most intimate of all human relationships. Every man wants a good wife, and every woman wants to be one. Kindness is a virtue.  Most of the qualities needed to be a kind wife are already there in a woman, and the rest can be developed or learned. Sometimes it calls us to sacrifice our pride, sometimes it calls us to walk in courage, and other times it requires both. There’s no room for kindness in a heart full of pride. Marriage is not an easy relationship to maintain. With countless marriages ending up in divorce, it is high time to shed some light on what makes a successful marriage. So what does a woman need to be a kind wife? Irrespective of the fact that no two women are similar, some basic qualities apply to all. I have composed a list of 20 suggestions of simple things women can do to be kind wife. A surefire way to focus on your husband and make him feel like he's your number one man of all time is to treat him with kindness. I challenge you to make a significant difference in your marriage by focusing solely on being kind.

1. Apologize quickly

 If you know you're in the wrong, just say, “ I'm sorry.” Most people find it very difficult to apologize when they are wrong. 

2. Brag about him publicly to someone else

 When, you’re among his or your friends, make sure to say something nice about him. Extort his good qualities. Tell them your husband is reliable, hardworking, considerate, etc and how you’re so proud of him.

3. Go On Dates

You may have big responsibilities on your shoulders, but those should not be a hindrance to romance. Going out now and then will rekindle the romance as the spark between you and your husband should not be allowed to die. Go on dates whenever you can, like you used to do before you got married. It is wrong to believe that is only men that can initiate outing. Go out for dinner and a movie or arrange a picnic for two. A great date will leave a lasting impression. 

4. Find out his love language

Study what makes him happy and feel loved and try to give it to him. It could be physical touch, quality time, receiving gift, etc. Your husband is sure to be thankful for your consideration and for recreating the magic.

5. Express Your Love

Do one small thing every day to show him that you love him because hiding love does not help your relationship. He needs to know how much you admire him.  Let him know that you still think he's attractive, a hard worker, and an amazing dad and that you are a lucky woman to be his wife. Your partner will appreciate if you are expressive about your love for him if you celebrate the little things with him, remember special days in his life and get occasional gifts that will make him smile. At least once a week do something romantic. Leave sweet love notes for him and leave it on the dashboard of her car. Who doesn't love a little love note on actual paper every once in a while?

6. Show Appreciation

Show your husband that you appreciate everything that he does for you and your family.  A simple “thank you” can make a difference in your relationship. When your spouse makes the effort to do something nice for you, show your appreciation. It is also heartening to know your thoughts and actions have been appreciated.

7. Smile and Laugh a Lot

Greet him whenever he comes in the door with a big smile, a bright face and a happy hello. Smile at him for no reason at all. A sense of humor keeps a marriage cordial. If he gets home before you, come into your house with a smile; happy to be home to him.

8. Communicate Always

Good communication is crucial for a successful marriage. Have calm heart-to-hearts instead of going hostile on him when something bothers you. When you communicate properly with your husband, he will be willing to listen to you. Listen when he's talking about his day. Ask him how his day was and actually care about the answer. Communicate by restraining yourself from doing all the talking. Give your spouse the courtesy to share in the conversation. Listen well, and listen more than you talk. It will also make him want to communicate with you.

9. Spend Quality Time With Him

Put your laptop, switch off the television and put your cellphone away and focus on him. Give him your undivided attention. Everyone knows it's not that fun to talk to someone who's also scrolling through cellphone or reading email or watching movie.

10. Prepare his favorite food

Put a little effort into making his favorite food, and see your love grows deeper. Food is the way to a man’s heart.

11. Give Him Space

Let him spend time with friends. You need to realize and accept that your husband has a life separate from you. He has other people and relationships too, such as his parents, siblings, and friends. He also has his interests and hobbies. Do not stop him from having this other life. Giving him space is important in any relationship and this will make him love you more.

12. Stop Nagging

Do not nag when problems arise. Instead, talk to him in a way, that makes him want to listen to you and resolve any problems that might have arisen. If you nag and complain constantly, it can create an unwanted rift between you and your husband. This could create complications, forcing him to avoid you; and things could turn worse as time passes. You cannot expect your husband to like you if he feels that you are constantly disappointed with him.

13. Keep Him Happy In Bed

Every marriage requires sexual intimacy. Making your husband happy in bed is essential to cordial relationship. If you do not, he might look for gratification elsewhere.

14. Keep Your Home Organized

No one wants to live in a house that is in a mess including your husband. Keep your house neat and clean at all times. Think of creative ways to make your home a peaceful sanctuary for him. Chores can be a pain, but necessary. The healthy environment at home will uplift his spirits and mood and it will make him think he is the luckiest man to have a wife like you.

15. Be Interested In His Interests

Write a list in your phone of all the things he mentions that he likes and try sharing them with him; he is sure to appreciate what you are doing and will love the fact that you are enjoying something that he likes. If he mentions he really likes a song you hear on the radio, write down the title. Help him to have fun. Put the song he likes on the stereo and make his favorite food. This way, you both can spend time enjoying an activity together.   

16. Be His Best Friend

The best marriage is the one where the couple is each other’s greatest and most trusted friend. A kind woman will allow a healthy friendship to develop between her and her husband, and this will make a difference in their relationship.

17. Be Respectful

Respect is denoted by the kindness and reverence that you show toward your husband. Treat him with the ultimate respect always especially when his friends and his family are around. Think before you speak so that you don’t say things you may regret later. Mutual respect is important in any relationship. So respect your husband so that your husband will respect you. Do not belittle, humiliate, strike or harm him in any way, whether in private or public.

18. Fight Fair

There is no married couple that does not have fights? In fact, every relationship has its share of differences. Speak softly, especially during times of anger and stress because Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath.” The louder it gets, the worse things become. Spend time praying about it first, and then respectfully address your feelings with your man. Don't bury feelings and then explode. A kind wife weighs the importance of the issue know and which fights are necessary and which are not. She shrug off the tiny irritations.  If it's not really that big of a deal, she doesn't make it one.

19. Seek His Advice

 Don't pretend to know it all. Ask for his advice over issues happening in your personal life. Incorporate his opinions into your life as much as you can and you will see how happy it would make your spouse. It will make him know you treasure his opinion.

20. Improve Compatibility

You and your husband were attracted to each other because of some traits you admire in each other. However, after some time dissimilarity may crops up, this does not you are incompatible. As a kind wife, you have to make yourself compatible with your husband by resolving conflicts and making compromises.

21. Learn to forgive

As a kind wife, learn to forgive because it helps the forgiven become a better person. You need to forgive so that you can be forgiven also when you err. Don't dwell on past mistakes. Stop looking behind; you are not going that way. Look forward; learn to forgive, and forget, then move on because it is emotionally healing.

22. Compromise

Making compromise means making concessions. Making sacrifice is part of marriage because a happy marriage is give and take, so be ready to make some sacrifices in your marriage.

23. Look Good

 Take care of yourself and look good after marriage because many women make a mistake of ignoring their looks after marriage. Men love having a wife who takes care of herself and looks good. Looking good, will enhance your confidence and self-esteem, and make you attractive to your husband. Your looks will keep your husband attracted to you and will make him keep his attention on you. Maintain your health as well by engaging in exercises, as good health reflects on your looks and mood

24. Accept His Friends

Accept your husband’s friends. You must understand that your husband has friends, realize that they hold a special place in your husband’s heart and he needs to spend time them. Take the time and effort to get to know his friends and he will love you for making an effort to know and welcome them. Women, who try to keep their husbands away from their friends, always ignite disagreement in the home

Article by Anthony Modungwo.

Relationship Coach.

31 Things to Stop Doing in 2018

The new year isn't only an opportunity to reset goals; it's also a time to reconsider how you've been leading your life. Take a moment to recap your 2017. What do you regret? What do you wish you could've done more or less of? Let that all fuel a better year and a better you in 2018. To put your well-being and happiness at the forefront, stop doing these 31 things ahead.

1. Caring about what others think.
2. Ignoring what your body is telling you (if you need sleep, sleep!).
3. Justifying every unnecessary purchase as something you "deserve."
4. Keeping negative people around.
5. Putting so much pressure on yourself.
6. Saying yes to things you don't want to do.
7. Neglecting your physical health.
8. Playing it safe.
9. Putting your passions aside.
10. Wasting your energy on people who don't deserve it.
11. Allowing others to dictate your life.
12. Getting caught up in drama.
13. Delaying overdue catch-ups with friends.
14. Being afraid of change.
15. Getting upset over trivial things.
16. Putting the needs of others before your own.
17. Criticizing yourself.
18. Worrying about things out of your control.
19. Ignoring calls from your parents or loved ones (no matter how crazy they drive you).
20. Neglecting your personal happiness.
21. Letting fear win.
22. Caring so much about social media.
23. Dwelling on the past.
24. Forgetting about self-care.
25. Trying to please everyone.
26. Treating your body like you're invincible.
27. Passing up amazing opportunities.
28. Taking things so seriously.
29. Settling for less.
30. Allowing others to bring you down.
31. Living every day like tomorrow's guaranteed

Article by NICOLE YI culled from POPSUGAR

How To Be A Perfect Girlfriend/Wife — 12 Simple Tricks

Relationships are never easy – they take hard work. But you can make sure you’re doing your part by trying to check at least three of the below points off your list, and your man will feel the positive vibes ten-fold.

1. Never be passive aggressive – it will be the downfall of your relationship. Instead, ensure proper communication and a straight-forward manner of doing things. Don’t make him play guessing games when something is wrong.

2. Show your appreciation! Whether it’s an expensive date night, or just taking out the trash, if your man puts in effort in your relationship, not only should you reciprocate, but make sure he feels the love!

3. Respect your man, and yourself. Low self esteem will make you a worse partner. Respect might seem like a formality, but it’s necessary in every step of your relationship.

4. Let him have his independence and space. But same goes for your own! If you give each other sufficient space, getting through milestones like moving in together and marriage will become a lot less scary.

5. Take care of yourself – just because you’re comfy in a long term relationship doesn’t mean you need to stop maintaining appearances. Keep at the grooming, blow outs, and skincare that gives you that ultra glow. And please don’t stop shaving your legs!

6. Don’t be high maintenance or a drama queen. If something doesn’t work out in a situation, learn how to be adaptable. Tackling issues together will bring you closer, but complaining and whining about it is a fight waiting to happen.

7. Realize boundaries still exist no matter snow close you are or how long you’ve been together. Boundaries are essential so that he understands what your no-go zone is, and same for you. No boundaries can lead to clinginess and control problems.

8. Be a great conversationalist. Men are always intrigued by a woman that they can just talk for hours with, about anything and everything. If you have dinner and all your hear is crickets, that relationship probably won’t last much longer.

9. Let your man be himself, and make sure to be yourself at all times. Accepting someone for their true selves and vice versa is the key to being happy in your relationship. You can only pretend you’re someone else, or try to change someone for so long before it backfires.

10. Learn how to cook! Help your man be healthy, remember the way to his heart is his stomach, in most cases. Cooking is a great way to make him fresh, healthy food that’s probably more impressive than his current eating habits, and cooking together is a sensual bonding experience.

11. Surprise him with little things every now and then. Just like a guy might bring you flowers or a yummy chocolate treat to remind you how special you are to him, you can surprise him with treats as well (bedroom favors don’t count.) What about some new joggers or that beard oil he’s had his eye on?

12. Show him tough love, but don’t be a nag. And yes, there’s a difference. Nagging is exhausting and just makes people feel bad about themselves, whereas tough love helps him become a better person and just delivers the hard-hitting facts in an honest way.

Article by Chanté Kaety culled from Newione.com

25 Things About Sex That All Men Would Like Their Women To Know

Have you ever wondered why the sex lives of most couples fall in a rut after some time? There's a lot of action, yes, but not the kind they'd really, really like. 

When couples stop having honest conversations about sex, it all goes downhill from there.

Not just a self-pleasuring act, sex is about two people and what they both like. 

And the only way you can really find out what your partner desires is to sit down and talk to them.

To all the women out there, here are 25 things about sex all men would like you to know:

1. There's nothing sexier than a woman taking initiative in bed. Absolutely nothing!

2. Sexy lingerie is always a great idea!

3. When you whisper in our ears, we know you want it just as much as we do.

4. Blowjobs, blowjobs and more blowjobs!

5. Don't be afraid to guide us. We may not want to admit it but we could do with some help!

6. Nothing keeps us in the moment as the sound of our own name.

7. We're up for anything as long as you're in agreement.

8. Take control. And then, take some more!

9. Show us what you'd like us to do to you.

10. Size matters. At least for our ego!

11. Can we watch some porn together?

12. Silent sex is the worst kind. The worst ever!

13. Believe it or not, we do like foreplay!

14. We'd love to go down on you. Don't be shy to ask!

15. Tell us your fantasies. And we'll tell you ours.

16. As tough as it is to believe, we don't always want sex.

17. Your sexual experience is not a bad thing. It's actually good!

18. Porn is not like real-life sex. And we know that!

19. Just like we keep things clean for you, don't forget to do the same for us.

20. The bed is just one of the places. Definitely not the only one. 

21. Sex toys? Bring 'em on!

22. The messier the sex, the better it can be.

23. Your body is indeed a wonderland!

24. If you haven't climaxed, let us know and we'll try harder!

25. We love having sex with you!

Article by  Saurav Bhanot culled from SCOOPWHOOP

Wife Says She Left Her Husband After Finding Incriminating Photo On Another Woman's Instagram

A woman says she ended her marriage after discovering her husband was cheating when she recognised the view from her bedroom window - on another woman's Instagram feed.

The Independent has covered the usual ways in which to catch your significant other cheating (chattier than usual, more interested in sex, refusing to make long-term plans) but we didn't expect a man's infidelity to be exposed in such an unusual way.

Yulia Agranovych, from Russia, says she was scrolling through her Instagram feed when she discovered a major clue that her husband was straying. She made the claims on the Russian news channel Ren-TV.

Agranovych said “I wasn’t searching for anything, it was a normal morning,” when she opened the app and came across an account owned by Vlada Abramovich.

Clicking on the account, Agranovych noticed her and the woman had a lot of followers in common - among other things, as it turned out.

One picture, in particular, caught her eye -  a post of the view from Agranovych’s own bedroom window. Her interest piqued, Agranovych then found “many other interesting photographs, including those of my husband.”

Acting as any other scorned wife would, Agranovych confronted both her husband and his mistress, even commenting on Abramovich’s post, “Beautiful view from my husband’s bedroom.”

Initially, the guilty couple denied the claims, with Agranovych’s husband insisting Vlada was not his mistress, but the girlfriend of a friend, and she had taken the picture when he had invited some friends over for a drink before heading to the movies.

The mistress, on the other hand, was less willing to go along with the lie. Unapologetically admitting to sleeping with Agranovych’s husband on social media, Vlada posted that “She is his wife, not mine, what’s the problem?” and sarcastically asked, “Is he just a vegetable without free will? Don’t make me laugh.”

Clearly having no other choice but to come clean, Agranovych’s husband admitted to having lovers while his wife was away - but insisted he was never “mentally unfaithful” and “told every girl he was married.” Because that makes it better, right?

Agranovych then decided to reach out to all the other women her husband had had affairs with. Agranovych said, "The other girls were much more pleasant, one even crying on the phone to me, saying she had no idea he was married."

Agranovych said, for her, divorce is the only answer. Taking the high road, she said, "If he finds a woman who is ready to be with him, and to accept it, let them be happy together." She is just glad she "got to know about it now and not when I became pregnant, for example, because we were planning to have a family."

• Article By CHELSEA RITSCHEL IN NEW YORK culled from independent.

This May Be One Of The Biggest Benefits To Marriage We've Ever Seen

Indeed, more than one in three people (37%) say that they started paying more attention to finances once they got married. What’s more, 30% said they started saving more money once they got married, and 10% say they started spending less money.

Of course, some of this could be that generally when you get married your household income rises — which could make it easier, for example, to save more. Data from the IRS found that taxpayers who are single claim that they have an annual adjusted gross income of about $35,000 per year, compared to married people who tend to claim between roughly $65,000 and $118,000 a year.

But that’s just one part of this. Indeed, a lot of this has to do with how marriage changes our views on money. For many, it’s the first time they really focus on things like saving to start a family or saving to retire together — so it spurs them to behave more responsibly with money, notes JJ Kinahan, the chief market strategist at TD Ameritrade.

Also see: This is the shocking amount it costs to raise a child in America today

Plus, you now have another person to answer to when it comes to how you deal with money. Indeed, three in 10 married people say that the single biggest financial benefit to getting married is having moral support and assistance keeping on track financially from another person.

Having that support and assistance is key for Bethesda, MD-based journalist Kimberly Palmer and her husband, who have been married 12 years. “He loves investing in the stock market, doing research on companies, and I am better at paying the bills, doing the day-to-day finances,” Palmer, a personal finance expert for NerdWallet, says of their financial differences. But they help each other to be better with investing and day-to-day bills, respectively, she says. Palmer’s husband for example, encourages her to put more into stocks. “I would prefer the money in a safe account, but he makes the case that we will miss out on potential growth. We talk through all of that.” And she makes sure bills are paid and keeps him on track with that. “It works,” she says.

Public relations professional Emily Yeap says marriage changed her financial habits as well. “There are three main things I do differently with money after being married,” Yeap, who has been married since 2009, says. She’s more cautious about splurging on wants like new shoes or bags, makes it a point to discuss big purchases she wants to make before she makes them, and pays more attention both to investing for retirement and saving for her child’s education. “I believe these behaviors changed first and foremost because I realize the decisions I make about money after marriage don’t just affect me, but my spouse and our child,” she says.

Of course, marriage doesn’t necessarily improve your financial situation. “Marriages survive and thrive when spouses are willing to adapt to the financial habits of the partners,” says Jean Marie Dillon, a certified financial planner at Freedom Financial Counseling. Many couples don’t do this and their marriages may suffer as a result. Indeed, money fights are the No. 1 predictor of divorce.

And this shouldn’t make all you singles out there despair. You can focus on saving more and spending less without having a romantic partner (here are some great tips for singles) and you can enlist friends and family to help you stay financially on track.

Article by Catey Hill culled from Moneyish