A lot of people are
confused about marriage these days. In the eyes of many, the institution of
marriage has become irrelevant and archaic relic. The longer you are married,
the more effort is required to stay remain married, so remember often, why you
married him instead of why you shouldn't have. Remind yourself of the good
feelings you had before it got hard and complicated. We live in a time when
marriage has largely lost the sense of permanence. Marriage doesn’t last any longer. Put on a
cloak of kindness because marriage is the deepest and most intimate of all
human relationships. Every man wants a good wife, and every woman wants to be
one. Kindness is a virtue. Most of the qualities
needed to be a kind wife are already there in a woman, and the rest can be
developed or learned. Sometimes it calls us to sacrifice our pride, sometimes
it calls us to walk in courage, and other times it requires both. There’s no
room for kindness in a heart full of pride. Marriage is not an easy
relationship to maintain. With countless marriages ending up in divorce, it is
high time to shed some light on what makes a successful marriage. So what does
a woman need to be a kind wife? Irrespective of the fact that no two women are
similar, some basic qualities apply to all. I have composed a list of 20 suggestions
of simple things women can do to be kind wife. A surefire way to focus on your
husband and make him feel like he's your number one man of all time is to treat
him with kindness. I challenge you to make a significant difference in your
marriage by focusing solely on being kind.
1.
Apologize quickly
If you know you're in the wrong, just say, “
I'm sorry.” Most people find it very difficult to apologize when they are
wrong.
2.
Brag about him publicly to someone else
When, you’re among his or your friends, make
sure to say something nice about him. Extort his good qualities. Tell them your
husband is reliable, hardworking, considerate, etc and how you’re so proud of him.
3.
Go On Dates
You may have big
responsibilities on your shoulders, but those should not be a hindrance to
romance. Going out now and then will rekindle the romance as the spark between
you and your husband should not be allowed to die. Go on dates whenever you
can, like you used to do before you got married. It is wrong to believe that is
only men that can initiate outing. Go out for dinner and a movie or arrange a
picnic for two. A great date will leave a lasting impression.
4.
Find out his love language
Study what makes him
happy and feel loved and try to give it to him. It could be physical touch,
quality time, receiving gift, etc. Your husband is sure to be thankful for your
consideration and for recreating the magic.
5.
Express Your Love
Do one small thing
every day to show him that you love him because hiding love does not help your
relationship. He needs to know how much you admire him. Let him know that you still think he's
attractive, a hard worker, and an amazing dad and that you are a lucky woman to
be his wife. Your partner will appreciate if you are expressive about your love
for him if you celebrate the little things with him, remember special days in
his life and get occasional gifts that will make him smile. At least once a
week do something romantic. Leave sweet love notes for him and leave it on the
dashboard of her car. Who doesn't love a little love note on actual paper every
once in a while?
6.
Show Appreciation
Show your husband that
you appreciate everything that he does for you and your family. A simple “thank you” can make a difference in your
relationship. When your spouse makes the effort to do something nice for you,
show your appreciation. It is also heartening to know your thoughts and actions
have been appreciated.
7.
Smile and Laugh a Lot
Greet him whenever he
comes in the door with a big smile, a bright face and a happy hello. Smile at
him for no reason at all. A sense of humor keeps a marriage cordial. If he gets
home before you, come into your house with a smile; happy to be home to him.
8.
Communicate Always
Good communication is
crucial for a successful marriage. Have calm heart-to-hearts instead of going
hostile on him when something bothers you. When you communicate properly with
your husband, he will be willing to listen to you. Listen when he's talking
about his day. Ask him how his day was and actually care about the answer. Communicate
by restraining yourself from doing all the talking. Give your spouse the
courtesy to share in the conversation. Listen well, and listen more than you
talk. It will also make him want to communicate with you.
9.
Spend Quality Time With Him
Put your laptop, switch
off the television and put your cellphone away and focus on him. Give him your
undivided attention. Everyone knows it's not that fun to talk to someone who's
also scrolling through cellphone or reading email or watching movie.
10.
Prepare his favorite food
Put a little effort
into making his favorite food, and see your love grows deeper. Food is the way
to a man’s heart.
11.
Give Him Space
Let him spend time with
friends. You need to realize and accept that your husband has a life separate
from you. He has other people and relationships too, such as his parents,
siblings, and friends. He also has his interests and hobbies. Do not stop him from
having this other life. Giving him space is important in any relationship and this
will make him love you more.
12.
Stop Nagging
Do not nag when
problems arise. Instead, talk to him in a way, that makes him want to listen to
you and resolve any problems that might have arisen. If you nag and complain
constantly, it can create an unwanted rift between you and your husband. This
could create complications, forcing him to avoid you; and things could turn worse
as time passes. You cannot expect your husband to like you if he feels that you
are constantly disappointed with him.
13.
Keep Him Happy In Bed
Every marriage requires
sexual intimacy. Making your husband happy in bed is essential to cordial
relationship. If you do not, he might look for gratification elsewhere.
14.
Keep Your Home Organized
No one wants to live in
a house that is in a mess including your husband. Keep your house neat and
clean at all times. Think of creative ways to make your home a peaceful
sanctuary for him. Chores can be a pain, but necessary. The healthy environment
at home will uplift his spirits and mood and it will make him think he is the
luckiest man to have a wife like you.
15.
Be Interested In His Interests
Write a list in your
phone of all the things he mentions that he likes and try sharing them with
him; he is sure to appreciate what you are doing and will love the fact that
you are enjoying something that he likes. If he mentions he really likes a song
you hear on the radio, write down the title. Help him to have fun. Put the song
he likes on the stereo and make his favorite food. This way, you both can spend
time enjoying an activity together.
16.
Be His Best Friend
The best marriage is
the one where the couple is each other’s greatest and most trusted friend. A
kind woman will allow a healthy friendship to develop between her and her
husband, and this will make a difference in their relationship.
17.
Be Respectful
Respect is denoted by
the kindness and reverence that you show toward your husband. Treat him with
the ultimate respect always especially when his friends and his family are
around. Think before you speak so that you don’t say things you may regret
later. Mutual respect is important in any relationship. So respect your husband
so that your husband will respect you. Do not belittle, humiliate, strike or
harm him in any way, whether in private or public.
18.
Fight Fair
There is no married
couple that does not have fights? In fact, every relationship has its share of
differences. Speak softly, especially during times of anger and stress because
Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath.” The louder it gets, the
worse things become. Spend time praying about it first, and then respectfully
address your feelings with your man. Don't bury feelings and then explode. A
kind wife weighs the importance of the issue know and which fights are
necessary and which are not. She shrug off the tiny irritations. If it's not really that big of a deal, she doesn't
make it one.
19.
Seek His Advice
Don't pretend to know it all. Ask for his
advice over issues happening in your personal life. Incorporate his opinions
into your life as much as you can and you will see how happy it would make your
spouse. It will make him know you treasure his opinion.
20.
Improve Compatibility
You and your husband
were attracted to each other because of some traits you admire in each other.
However, after some time dissimilarity may crops up, this does not you are
incompatible. As a kind wife, you have to make yourself compatible with your
husband by resolving conflicts and making compromises.
21.
Learn to forgive
As a kind wife, learn
to forgive because it helps the forgiven become a better person. You need to
forgive so that you can be forgiven also when you err. Don't dwell on past
mistakes. Stop looking behind; you are not going that way. Look forward; learn
to forgive, and forget, then move on because it is emotionally healing.
22.
Compromise
Making compromise means
making concessions. Making sacrifice is part of marriage because a happy marriage
is give and take, so be ready to make some sacrifices in your marriage.
23.
Look Good
Take care of yourself and look good after
marriage because many women make a mistake of ignoring their looks after
marriage. Men love having a wife who takes care of herself and looks good.
Looking good, will enhance your confidence and self-esteem, and make you
attractive to your husband. Your looks will keep your husband attracted to you
and will make him keep his attention on you. Maintain your health as well by
engaging in exercises, as good health reflects on your looks and mood
24.
Accept His Friends
Accept your husband’s
friends. You must understand that your husband has friends, realize that they
hold a special place in your husband’s heart and he needs to spend time them.
Take the time and effort to get to know his friends and he will love you for
making an effort to know and welcome them. Women, who try to keep their
husbands away from their friends, always ignite disagreement in the home
Article by Anthony Modungwo.
Relationship Coach.
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